No. (Insert deep breath). I can remember the first time I said it out loud. I didn’t realize I had been holding the word “No” hostage inside for so long. As I said it, I felt like my world was about to crumble beneath me. I thought, “Is it ok to say No?”
For those of us that want to be “good,” “please” others, or simply take the path of least resistance, saying “No” can be difficult. In truth, it is not so hard when we take the time to get to know ourselves and take charge of our lives.
Knowing ourselves does not have to be hard. It begins with a commitment to be more conscious in our lives. While it is often helpful to work with a mentor, it is not required. However, time with yourself is required. Sometimes we hide the truth from ourselves out of fear or self-doubt.
The old adage “The truth will set you free” has proven to be true for me. I have learned that the body doesn’t lie. I can now feel the choices in my life that are a “yes!” and the choices that are a clear “no.” A “yes” feels light and full of possibilities, while a “no” feels heavy and constricting. When I feel a sense of confusion, I make space to allow the truth to be revealed in divine timing. (Yes, there are moments that I still freak out and want to force the timing. And this happens less and less).
When we pay attention to our bodies, we find that we indeed already have all we need within. I invite you to ask yourself, “What choice(s) do I want to say ‘no’ to today?”
