Do you notice yourself ever using the words “good” and “relationship” together? Establishing a healthy vs. unhealthy relationship is a common struggle for many people. We want to have fulfilling relationships, yet deep down we can feel unloved, unappreciated, taken advantage of, or just plain exhausted from it all. We can spend all day in our heads trying to establish if a particular relationship is “good” or “bad,” while ultimately avoiding the truth.

The truth is there is no “good” or “bad.” What is true for one person may not be true for another. The truth is that we attract people to us to help us heal. This can be really confusing if, for example, if you feel stuck in your current relationship. Your relationship is so great on so many levels, yet something is missing that you just can’t quite place your finger on. You may be looking at your partner thinking that they are just too selfish, too full of drama or maybe just too busy to really have a relationship. What if you took a moment to turn your attention away from your partner and onto you?

You may be thinking, “Why would I do that? It is not me, it is him/her.” The truth is that it has nothing to do with them. Each person in your life is a teacher to help you discover who you really are. Now there are a million different things we could discuss here, but for just right now, can you open your mind to the possibility that there is no “good” or “bad” and that each relationship in your life serves a purpose?